We have been matched with a child since before Christmas and are due to have matching panel on 5th Feb (delayed due to Christmas and other reasons) but our SW mentioned a matching meeting that she is attending on Monday, does anyone know what this is?
We are a little worried as this is our 3rd social worker, and not the one who took us through the family finding process, and since she came on board she has expressed some concerns with the match and has basically said if she had been with us from the start she would have never matched us with this LO.
The concerns she has had already been looked at in detail from our previous SW (concerns regarding LO potentially being on the spectrum is an example), and she recently got 'concerned' again because in the report we are going to receive it states LO is in mainstream school (it's actually pre-school) and that it's recommended we keep LO home for 4 weeks before sending them so we can bond. She was worried we would read that and think we had to send LO to school after the 4 weeks had passed and that she would recommend longer.
I was a bit flabbergasted that she thought we were that stupid to be honest and said 1. It's pre school. LO doesn't have to go at all, and 2. We will obviously be child let in how soon they are ready to go.
Our concern is that she could go to this matching meeting and recommend we don't continue, is this possible? We have had lengthy discussions with both herself and her manager and explained we are far too emotionally invested at this point, as is our daughter who has been told she is getting a new brother or sister, seen photos and knows their name. Our SW has assured us she will support us if that's what we want but we can't get rid of this niggling doubt.
