November 24, 2020 17:31
Hello I think I remember some of your names from long ago...I am just coming to terms that my ad will never be like us. She has set herself apart from us emotionally at such a long age. We have been through so much with her and sadly the situation is not better at all. She thrives on drama And loves the bad boys. As she gets older now 24 scars are building up over scars..she is pretty fragile..unable to cope with her daughter at times ( she is my only hope, we absolutely adore that child) and have became involved in a big part of her childhood.) I know only too well she will be held against me in the arguments we have. This time I want her to stay in her flat, she causes havoc back at home, being very lazy, argumentative you know what it’s like. She demands a lot..
I am pretty convinced she is bi polar, she went for counselling few times and is constantly arguing with people. I am finding it very hard to say nice things about her and I hate myself for that. She can be a good wee mum at times my Grandaughter adores her and she can be quite chatty and very likeable in small doses. I feel unhappy that she has never found peace in her life, she has blamed being adopted for everything. I had severe Attachment problems with her growing up, she never connected with me T all, hated me could not wait to tell me to f... off when she was 16 and dissappear. I want her to be happy in her life. I love that she has gave me her daughter she often says there mum you have with her that you can never have with me ..so she knows.
I am sorry to say if I could turn the clock back I would not do it again..not just for us but for her sake, we tried so,any times if I knew I would make her this unhappy no way it was not worth it.