windfalls
June 20, 2019 11:13
Hi Newmummy,
My eldest, who isn't adopted. used to do this as a young child. I found that it was a security thing - just needed to know that i was still there. Sometimes i also found that he did it just out of habit. The best way to deal with it is not to make it an issue or get upset/anxious about it. When my son used to do it i would just reply with a "yes?" or "it's ok i am still here". Although it went on for a while it did stop. You need to learn to zone it out. I assume that your LO is your only child and so you will need to learn to zone a lot of things out i am afraid!! I always found that being cooped up in the house always made things more difficult to manage and so I would take my children out and about. I have three children - 2 bs and 1 ad and when all young (in fact i still do now) i was always out and about with them - church play groups, soft play areas, children's farms, - i had membership for lots of places and would make packed lunches, chuck children in the car and out we would go. Even now, i prefer to take children out then stay home!!! Welcome to the wonderful world of being a 24/7 mum!!! - you won't even be able to go the loo on your own any more!!! xx