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if you use the 'search' there are several posts - top tips for introductions etcand several experienced FC on here who can advise you

the first thing to say is that this is not your problem. harsh as that sounds the fc has her own sw and her sw should be giving her support through this obviously difficult time for her. that said if you are concerned through intros that the fc's emotions are impacting negatively on the process then have a word with your sw to ask them to speak to her sw becoz often foster carers don't seek the support they need, and some fostering sw's don't automatically offer support, only when they are asked for it.on the bright side the fc is obviously very fond of your LO and that is a good thing. hopefully the time between your first meeting and intros will have given the fc time to get used to the idea of moving the LO on and she'll be able to keep her emotions in check while you are there at least.my last set of intros were very difficult for me following a horrendously disastrous set the time before (disrupted at the end and a whole load of other carp as well) so the last set had me anxious, shaky, very emotional, not becoz of the process (or the parents) itself but just becoz of the memories associated from the previous time. my fsw usually leaves me be during intros (by mutual consent) unless I call her (that works well for us usually) but with these ones she rang me every couple of days to be sure I was ok and that things were going well, and was there at handover, usually she wouldn't be. your fc's sw should be offering the support the fc needs and hopefully will not leave her to flounder, the first time sets the tone for those that come after it and a difficult intros sets the tone for the ones following it as well. but mainly remember that this is not your problem! you have enough on your plate without worrying about the fc, but if you are concerned once intros start then speak to your sw, but be careful how you phrase things becoz it is so easy, as I know to my cost, for sw's to take what is said out of context and use it in a negative way when support is what is needed.

Thank you lobs!Great advice as ever!Just want Intros to go as smoothly as poss and I really appreciate that FC is so attached to LO.Matched to 2 yr old approaching Intros x

all the best with it. 2 year olds are just so gorgeous and funny not to mention entertaining. relax (if you can) and enjoy the intros, its half the battle!

Thanks lobs xxxx