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Placement Disrupted
newmum1
May 27, 2013 10:43
Unfortunately my placement with my little girl has disrupted and she has returned to the foster carers.It was an extremely hard decision but given the impact on me and her my doctor, social worker and myself felt it was the only option.It has been a horrendous and heart breaking time and I wouldn''t wish it on anybody but I wanted to write it on the forum in case anybody else is going through a similar experience as when you are going through it feels very isolating and that you are the only person it has happened to.Been lucky in that I have had plenty of support from family and social workers and I am receiving counselling. I am very concerned about the impact on what has happened will have on my little girl, although Social Workers have reassured me that she is okay.I do hope that nobody else has to go through this experience, but if they do at least they know they are not alone.
kstar
May 27, 2013 12:01
That's really sad, it must be heartbreaking for you. And what a brave decision to do what was right for you both. Can't imagine how you feel, but hope you find the right path eventually xxx
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Serrakunda
May 27, 2013 17:22
so sorry to hear this, heartbreaking for everyone. Hope you have some support for youtake care
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Tokoloshe
May 27, 2013 17:59
I'm so sorry to hear that. Try to take care of yourself.
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Pear Tree
May 27, 2013 18:29
Really sad to hear thisThere's a very helpful booklet called 'dealing with disruption' by BAAF that auk has copies of you can borrowThere is a very well respected therapist who said to me once the children do fine, it's the parents who are never the same again.All the best to you
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mama1
May 27, 2013 19:23
Having been through a distruption myself I know how heartbreaking it is.My thoughts are with you.Take care of yourself.
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phoebe67
May 27, 2013 20:18
newmum1,I think you have been incredibly courageous to face that the placement wasn't going to work, and then to share your experience with a view to supporting others. As PT has said, I believe the child is the least damaged by this event, as hard as that is to consider.Prayers for you both, to find the right path in future. Take good care. You are one brave lady.Phoebe x
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areth_star
May 27, 2013 20:19
I can't imagine how hard a decision that must have been. It takes a lot of guts to do what you feel is best sometimes, even when it breaks your heart. Good luck to you and to her in whatever comes next.
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raspberrysmoothie
May 28, 2013 09:38
Thanks for posting. As everyone has said you did a brave and honest thing and your little girl will be fine, you need to take care of you and it sounds like you are doing that. Hope the counselling helps and you also have support from friends, family etc.Take care rs x
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Huxley
May 28, 2013 23:47
I'm sorry that you have had to go through this.I'm not sure why so many on here seem to think that 'she will be fine' though.
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guinea pig
May 30, 2013 19:04
So sorry this has happened. My DD had a disrupted placement before she came to me. There is no doubt in my mind that the disruption has added another layer of trauma on her BUT, and this is a big but, there is also no doubt in my mind that she wouldn't have received the very high level of support she gets now unless the disruption had happened.I hope that you both get the help you need to move on from this.Best wishesguinea pig
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Melodie
June 18, 2013 08:11
I have sent you a private message
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Levygirl
June 18, 2013 11:19
So sorry to hear this as it must have been a very difficult decision to make. I hope that you both get the love, support and care that you need to help you both move on. Much love
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Melodie
July 30, 2013 12:20
Hi NM1,I have PM'd you.Melodie
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FehrScaper
July 30, 2013 15:58
Sorry to hear that. It must have been a difficult decision. Take care of yourself!
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