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lillybobs
September 11, 2009 22:41
Hi allJust found this forum and wanted to introduce myself. We are currently looking into starting the adoption process and have an open evening on Monday. Not really sure what to expect, feel nervous and excited about it all.We have 1 child aged 4 years, conceived through a long slog of IVF treatment and we have decided we cannot face any more fertility treatment and feel adoption is the next step for us as we would love a 2nd child.I am sure I will have loads and loads of questions in the near future and look forward to getting to know some of youLilly x
katkin
September 12, 2009 08:47
Hi, welcome to the boards & good luck with the adoption process, hope it goes well for you. Please feel free to ask anything - everyones helpfull.katkin
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venezia
September 12, 2009 16:06
Hi and enjoy your meeting on Monday.I can assure you you have nothing to be nervous about- it will be informal, and will answer many questions for you- it will also give you many questions which you can ask about here!!!!xxx
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katkin
September 12, 2009 16:44
We went to open evening or infomation evenings & they were really informative & friendly. People there from the agency, adopters & adoptees for you to speak to which was great. We watched a video & people spoke then we all got a chance to ask questions. We all had tea & biscuits & wandered round chatting so it was nice & nothing to worry about. You'll be fine - good luck
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lillybobs
September 15, 2009 21:14
Hi and thank you for the replies We attended the info evening last night, really enjoyed it and found it very informative and relaxed. We were both very excited afterwards and looking forward to the future. Called the agency today to hopefully proceed and a social worker called me back later to say that there was an issue, I knew what was coming and that is that I am currently on anti depressants. I had informed them of this a few weeks ago and no one said we couldnt proceed although it was an issue however the current policy is that we cannot go any further now until I have been off the meds for at least 6 months.I am so so disapointed tonight, feels like the whole nightmare of fertility treatment all over again and that we have failed at the 1st hurdle. I dont want to go into too much detail on here as to why I am on them but its nothing sinister, I am happy, stable and basically I have had them in the past but I went back on them in Dec after the sudden death of my step dad, I coped initially but found I became anxious and panicy and they worked a treat and now I am doing OK. Looking back it was grief and maybe I shouldnt have gone on them again for this but I feel I have been penalised for things beyond my control.The social worker was lovely but I was upset and basically there is nothing further we can do for now. I have booked an appointment with GP to sort a plan to come off although I am frustrated to have to do this, I am a good mum, I am in a professional position in my job and depsite people saying there is no stigma these days attatched to AD's, there obviously is!!!Sorry will climb down off my soap box now...just needed a rant. Anyone got any experience of this? I wont let it put me off.Thanks in advanceLilly x
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katkin
September 16, 2009 16:36
What a nightmare but it doesn't mean you can't proceed, it just may be a bit later than you hoped. The adoption process can be long & slow with lots of delays along the way so try not to let it get you down. Use the time to get as much childcare experience as you can, help at a school, playgroup, cubs etc & read as much as you can about adoption & children's behaviour. You may need to do this for your HS so get in now to give you a head start. Keep a list of all the books you read plus TV program's & DVD's etc you watch. Dan Hughes is great - we hired a video from this site on attachment & it was the best one we watced (just our opinion).Take Care & good luck
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