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Godparenting etiquette - twins
Cheeseontoast
August 29, 2009 22:58
I have recently been asked to be godmother to one of my friend''s twin daughters. I am honoured and delighted of course.Now were I just invited to the baptism, I would get the girls either a joint present, or each of them a very similar present. Were there just one child to whom I was godmother, I would obviously get a more major present . . . what do I do in this situation? I feel awkward sharply differentiating between the two and awkward if I don''t single out my goddaughter (other twin obviously has her own godparents, but I don''t know them so can''t liaise to find out what they are going to do do!) So what do I do do you think?
merry
August 29, 2009 23:13
We're having a joint dedication for our children and they have different Godparents. Not twins, though very close in age and many people think they are. I certainly wouldn't expect the Godparents of one to buy a present for the other.Having said that, when we went to our Godchild's Christening, we did buy a small gift for much older sibling so she didn't feel left out. We also bought a small gift for another young sibling who was also being Chistened.So I guess that hasn't really helped very much, but it's my experience!
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mummyTJ
August 30, 2009 09:43
Not sure there is a right and wrong just your personal decision. Different situation, but 2 of my nephews were Christened at the same time and I was Godparent to only one of them. For me I couldnt differentiate between the 2 - it felt unfair so I bought same present for both. They talk about who I am Godparent 2 but I always tell them that my love / prayer support etc is the same for both of them... Not sure what their parents think, but for me there is no 'special' difference.. Hope you find a stress free way through!
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Cheeseontoast
August 30, 2009 22:18
Thank you all. I think my solution is:I ordered their main present last night and it is definitely a joint one. I have decided to embroider/frame a "baptism sampler" (small one!) for my goddaughter as well. This also fits with the wedding present I did for their parents some years ago. Thereafter (C'mas, birthdays etc) I will treat them the same.Thanks again, CoT
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Shes like the wind
August 30, 2009 22:22
I think do a present for being godmother and then token for other -maybe prayer book or something.
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