February 12, 2022 22:21
Teenager came to us as a baby. Will be 18 in 2 years. Asks a lot about "real"parents. Has always used this expression towards us when angry. We are dreading when teen finds out, as the birth family only live a few miles away and have been in/out of prison. Wider network of troubled family members that we worry will teen will reach out to. Teen is so easily influenced (some SEN) and would definitely be drawn to them. This is so worrying, as they have chaotic lives.
Anyone else had this ?
February 13, 2022 11:31
How much does he already know? My three know all there is to know about their birth families as we’ve always been open and honest with them. I’ve one approaching 18 and we’ve had the conversation about bps maybe wanting to make contact. He has very clear views on this and we all - including SS - will have to respect them.
if your lad hasn’t had good quality therapeutic lifestory work then I’d recommend you request it as soon as possible. Without the facts it can be easy for teenagers to have a rosier picture of a fantasy rather than the reality