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We are a white couple who have successfully raised a child, not our birth child, who is of a different ethnicity to us. For this reason we have been approved to adopt children of our own and other ethnic backgrounds.We had a very successful meeting with an LA concerning children of African descent. However since then the LA has wobbled and backtracked. We followed up the meeting with further evidence of how we would promote the children''s identity, including through contact with other children and through friends of African descent and of other ethnic backgrounds and their children becoming positive role models. Where we live there are people of other many ethnic groups, but they are definately minority groups. We live near a large multi-cultural city though, which we visit often and where we have located relevant shops, hairdressers, community centre etc. We have said we will do any reading, attend conferences etc. that the LA feels necessary.The LA now wants a further meeting and MORE evidence of how we will promote identity, including frequency of contact with friends etc. How do we know how often is enough?We would welcome ideas of what else we can do. At the moment we feel whatever we say will not be enough and are considering whether it is worth proceeding. These children sound fantastic though and it would be such a shame for us to have to let them go, as well as being another few months in their lives of them not being placed.