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I don't think it should matter personally. Intros involve just you and your LO. My parents didn't meet my AD until a week after intros. Everyone's different but I wouldn't worry about it. Timings often change as well.

My SW has said that she would like them to be involved with intros. Just in case I need them and LO wont worry about who they are.

I was single, and SS allowed me to introduce my mom to the children about 10 days into the fortnight of introductions. I think they felt it was because it was a risky placement, and intros are such a stressful time, and as a single person, it's especially tough.However, I don't see why your parents being on holiday should necessarily delay things. I wouldn't volunteet the information, but if the possibility of them meeting LO is raised by SS, then I guess you'll have to tell them, and emphasise that there will be others around who can support you.

Just seen your other message. Maybe your parents could send a postcard saying how much they are looking forward to meeting your LO, or speak to them on the phone.Presumably the holiday was booked and paid for a long time before the date for intros was sorted out, so SS should accept it's just one of those things.Maybe ask if they will allow you to introduce LO to a close relative or friend instead?

my parents were not involved in intros at all, I wouldn't worry. Good luck and enjoy

SW were very keen for my Mum to get involved from time I first brought LO to my house. However, she was not involved at all whilst I was with LO at fcs house. AndWill you parents be back my time LO moves in? As you will need as much support as you can get. Intros and the first few weeks are exhausting. And, I ended up with severe back pain so had to call in my Mum/support network very early on. That said, despite all this, I loved meeting my LO and although having LO move in was overwhelming, and it was a bit up and down, I loved having him home

Just to say, I have found that my support network not so able to help practically; many of them are at work. So make sure there is someone who can step in if you need practically. For me, it has been my Mum mainly.Best wishes as you head towards MP and intros

I can't imagine SS will expect you to postpone as a result. However, you might want to think about it! I know how much everyone just wants to get on with it and get moving, but I could never have imagined how emotionally draining intros would be! Without my mum to talk to, I wouldn't have got through it I don't think. She stayed with me for the first week, then during the second week we must have spent two hours a day on the phone!Think carefully and ask your SW :-) this is about the rest of your life, one week here or there on planet adoption is nothing compared the years ahead!

good point, kstar

It depends on how much you rely on them. My family weren't involved with intros. They live 2-3 hours drive from me and Simba was 2 hours in the other direction so not very practical.I spoke to my mum most night but only briefly. I think its one of those personal things