Hi there wise people,
I am the mum to two . Son age 12 and Daughter is now 13, been with us for 9 years.
This is about Daughter - No diagnosis. No EHCP. She has always been troubled and has had years of therapy. Unlike her younger brother she does not feel like she 'fits' in with our family. (We have a social worker, we have life story work planned ( if she will agree to go))
Recently she has started to escalate her already **** you attitude, ignoring curfews, running off, hanging out with chaotic kids , breaking in to abandoned buildings, being involved in stealing bikes etc.....
I have tried setting reasonable boundaries, eg, must come home when we eat at 6pm - if I do let her out, then she must stay in our local park and not go wandering off around the city, she must only be with the person/s I have agreed.
Anyway she has stuck two fingers up to all that, and we had to call the police last night as we didn't know where she was. She did come home . She was 'sorry' ish this morning. I have now taken away her smart phone and replaced it with a cheap pay as you go and intend to say she can 'earn' her iphone back with better choices.
I mean in reality she could do this every night, stay out all night, tell us to F off, and see who she wants and there is diddly squat we can do about it.
Any experience of this? Any words of wisdom? I feel utterly desperate as she is putting such strain on us all.