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It was a while ago now but number 2 came home about around 3 years after our first. Waited 20 months for a match.

Child no 3 came home 20 months after our second but that was child specific.

Donatella, thank you for your reply. Please can I ask what’s the age gap between your children?

Bear in mind our 3rd was child specific and a child we were asked to adopt .. but 20 months between youngest and middle. Just under 3 years between eldest and middle. 4 and a half years in total between eldest and youngest! We now have the joy of three teenagers ?

Wow hormones must be running wild in your household. ? *hugs all round*

My wife and I adopted our Son when he was just a little over 1. He’s 5 this summer. We have just been approved agin for the 2nd time at the beginning of March 21. We are all looking forward so much for another child to join our family. to make it complete. We are hoping that matching doesn’t take to long, so the gap between children isn’t too big, so they can play and grow up together. We are all so excited,

Ours lived in different cities and so had two separate assessments for birth parents (my daughter taken into care following NAI and my son taken into care at birth) and two separate legal processes. They were not ready to be placed at the same time. SWs had considered moving AS to ADs FC and / or delaying her placement so they could be together but thankfully didn’t. They ended up being placed six months apart (as toddlers) which was difficult for everyone - so they did grow up together but not so much that they played together - though they did - but the sibling rivalry was intense. You’re not of course going to be in the same position but just bear in mind decisions over age gaps also take children’s emotional needs into consideration and the need for them to be as settled and secure as possible and the possibility that rivalry might be more intense

My son has been home almost 5 years, and just waiting for panel for number 2. I would have liked to have done it earlier, but haven’t felt that son was ready emotionally until recently.

We started our second adoption process again 2 years of our first adoption, when our initial adopted sons were 4 and 5 years old.