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Hi, Bop -Thanks for posting that.Love,Corkwing

Hi Bop We have registered as champions as well, though still waiting for the date to be confirmed for our get-together.I was part of the initial consultation about it a year ago, and went to Spring Harvest this year where it was really being promoted. Unlike so many of these consultations, they have really listened to adopters. I'm half way through the book at the moment, but feel really strongly that this is something I can support in our area. Exciting stuff!Hope to see you around Bx

I like this project

Hi Baz, We found out about it at Spring Harvest (SK) too. We're also still waiting for a date tbc.Bop

Hi there,We are champions. Really exciting to hear others are getting involved Marianne

Thank you BopI T H

Just finished the book and thoroughly recommend it. Also looking forward to the 'home for good' tour. Thanks for posting

Thank you so much for posting this. As a Christian I know that adoption is so much on God's heart and really want to encourage others along this route but hadn't heard of this project. Will look at the website!xx

Hi Bop,Just finished reading the book (sent to us by someone in our church who knows the authors). Hoping to get to one of the tour dates. Having lunch with another adoptive family in our church soon to discuss what we can do.Very exciting BB

Great to see so many others are already involved and good to see others taking a look.Maybe we should keep each other updated as things progress?Bop

I've not heard about this. Will go and take a look now!!ThanksA xx

Bit late on the uptake.I have almost finished this book it is brilliant. I like it as it not only helps people think if they would be able to foster or adopt but if they couldn't how could they help with their other church members who are thinking of it or have done it.We have recently adopted a baby girl and we have had as many strange and unexpected questions from our church friends as our other friends.There are SOOOOOO many misconceptions in all walks of life.here is the link to the book on amazon : http://www.amazon.co.uk/Home-Good-Difference-Vulnerable-Children/dp/144474531X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1377241516&sr=8-1&keywords=home+for+good

Glad you enjoyed the book Rubix.I really enjoyed the Champions meeting and signed up to be one - I also rather rashly volunteered to be a local coordinator (although I've not heard anything back).My plan is to try and promote it in our church in November for Adoption Sunday and see where we go from there...Bop

We attended the "Getting Your Kids Through Church Without Them Ending Up Hating God" seminar run by care for the family (who were also involved in the home for good book I believe) where we met Rob Parsons (the Author of GYKTC book).I also signed up as I thought they do a fantastic job.Have you come across "Who let the dads out" it is a charity and there is a book (link below) on how dads can engage with their young (preschool) children. There is a sequel book (called SODA) for older children. I have the books but haven't yet read them they seem good from my brief browse.http://www.amazon.co.uk/Inspiring-Churches-Engage-Pre-school-Children/dp/1841018856/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1377254824&sr=8-1&keywords=who+let+the+dads+out

I totally applaud this as our church was unbelievably unhelpful. We had been holding weekly groups in our home; helped in several Alpha courses & made dinners etc for new parents etc as well as attending Sunday Worship - we felt a big part of our local church along with our christian neighbours who were our referees. For 2-3 Sundays our daughter enjoyed church but then found the sensory overload overwhelming. We had to ask the group to meet in someone else's house as we felt AD needed her home to feel secure & not over run with visitors who she didn't know & didn't trust.The support from our church was awful. We felt we got dropped like hot cakes, our neighbours hardly spoke to us & I feel we were judged by our inability to attend services. What I thought was going to be a primary source of support turned into anything but.I feel strongly that the church communities should be welcoming adopted & fostered children & young people with open arms & showing the unconditional neverending love & support that we as adopters or foster carers give so freely.I was shocked & hurt when this happened & 5 years later I haven't actually got over it.Rant over......Home for Good Rules

No where near on this scale but Teletubbies I was given grief when I couldn't count the offering the week of our introductions. It was suggested that I could swap with the next week. I repeated I wasn't sure if we would even be able to attend church let alone expect my DW to deal with our LO by herself if we did go.It comes down to ignorance, as many people just see them as "just another child" when you try to explain they are very different you just get blank looks.We have many people in our church who are foster carers, have been adopted themselves or have previously adopted or have close family who have. So we have many many advocates that could shout on our behalf. I realise we are really lucky in that sense.I feel sometimes people think church is about attending on a sunday not how you live your life (but what would I know I've only been a christian for 2 years). Sometimes someone who will listen is all it takes, not TUT in dissaproval at our noisy/disruptive children.There my Rant over too.

Hey everyoneRubix - glad you are enjoying the book, I found it really inspiring. Bop - I applied to be a co-ordinator too, have you filled out the application forms? I returned mine about a month ago so I guess they are following up my references. It's all gone very quiet, however in see a Champions email was sent a couple of days ago so things might be picking up. Bx

Hi Baz - yes I sent my forms off just before we went away and have heard nothing - I had heard someone else had applied from the West, so we might end up working together - which would be fab. Rubix and TT - sorry to hear you had a rough time in terms of church support - sadly we had the same, which is one of the reasons I really want to support this project. Hopefully not only will it get more children out of care and into loving families, but also those families who do adopt/foster will be fully supported. Bop

I've been on the website but hadn't heard of the book, will look at it.My church are being really supportive and I'm not the first to adopt from there.