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Bit difficult to say without knowing the age of the LOs as it would vary from how they are doing at school to whether they are meeting their milestones.Read the CPRs carefully. Ask questions linked to the information in there to show you have considered it and reflected on it (especially in the case of competitive matching). Your aim at the meeting should be to see if you feel you can parent these children, so think about their personalities, their health needs and possible future health needs, their development so far, their attachment etc. I have no personal experience of siblings but from what I have read on other boards, definitely ask about the sibling bond and how much work has been done on this.

A lot of the questions we thought only foster carers would know were answered by our little ones social worker. It was lovely as she obviously knew her really well. So other than standard questions about birth family history, development and attachments etc we were also able to ask about her likes and dislikes, routines, comforters, favourite snacks and so on. So don't rule those types of questions out just yet!

I would ask how many moves the child has had. Even if they have been with the same FC they may have had respite moves when FC went on holidayMy DD had several moves and they are very damagingAsk how much contact there has been and how it was managed. Good contact should ideally be BP going to FC home if safe. Otherwise FC should take child to contact so they are not shipped about by strangers to a contact centreDont underestimate how much trauma all this causes, my DD had 5x a week of badly managed contactShe is a very traumatised little girl partly, I believe, caused by the moves and badly managed contactBefore we adopted I wouldve never thought to ask about this and the information was not volunteeredIt will only change if they are questioned about it