BAJT2018
August 9, 2019 11:52
Well we've had the hearing today. The judge has said that birth parents can't contest but won't grant the order over concerns about the scumbag in our family. Another hearing will be set in a couple of months and I'm now really scared that we are going to lose her but I don't know what more we can do. Feel totally hopeless to be honest. It will destroy us all if we lose her but it's out of our hands
BAJT2018
August 9, 2019 13:00
I don't think ss themselves even know what more we can do to prove that she's safe. They're just saying 'we think the judge just needs to know that everything is being done to keep her safe' but then they don't seem to have a clue what else the judge even wants to prove that she's safe. This is why I'm scared now that she is going to be removed as if the judge continues to refuse the AO I can't see much other alternative. I'm seeking legal advice from the adoption uk helpline. I have mentioned wanting a LAC review but they don't seem to want that. I'm just totally lost tbh. I really want to fight for our child but I just don't know what we can do to make things better
BAJT2018
August 9, 2019 14:13
The way the sw's have put it we don't know what the judge wants exactly until we have had his report in the next couple of weeks. We have made it very clear that we won't be having any more contact with BIL and that if it was asked of us then we would break all contact with any of his family and move. Moving has occured to us to move nearer to my family but when we've tested the water with that with sw's all they've said is how disruptive that'd be. They have said that they're quite shocked as well that AO wasn't granted and don't seem to really know why. I will see what the legal support says but asides from them bugging us and our comminication devices I'm not sure what else can be done to establish that we are serious about protecting her
BAJT2018
August 9, 2019 15:28
PS we haven't been appointed a guardian yet. After talking to sw again it apparently might be something that judge is asking for before AO is granted. Apparently also because BP's were present at the hearing and expressed concerns about how we would safeguard the judge stated that he would make recommendations in private so I think we are just going to have to wait few days and see what exactly the judge has said. Also, we were thinking that we would need to be present at the next hearing but apparently BP's are also allowed to be and probably will be present? Is this accurate?
BAJT2018
August 9, 2019 16:03
Ive spoken to legal advice line. They too didn't really know what to suggest except that we ought to be at next hearing and should be seeking confirmation as to what exactly judge wants prior to the next hearing. They also seemed pretty flabbergasted that the order wasn't just granted
BAJT2018
August 9, 2019 17:54
Tbh it sounds like he was 'scared of BPs' apparently BD questionned how they could be sure that in years to come we wouldn't allow contact with this relative (valid concerns to be fair) and at this point the judge said he wasn't going to make the recommendations now but in writing. I can see why they're being cautious but there's horrible people everywhere. Just because one of them happens to be in our family doesn't mean we are any less likely to safeguard our child. To some extent it has to come down to gut instinct and balance of probabilities and we've never faltered in being clear that this family member won't get near our child. Asides from tagging us and bugging our phones I really don't know what more we can do and I'm heartbroken for our beautiful child who might end up being severely traumatised by baeurocratic nonsense :-(
BAJT2018
August 9, 2019 18:12
Apparently they have been keeping IRO utd and they are fully in support of us. Even the barrister was apparently mindblown that thw judge did this. We have already asked for a written breakdown of the hearing if pos and will be asking for everything that we are entitled to prior to the next hearing. We may need to seek our own legal representation as well but I don't even have a clue how we go about that or how much it is likely to cost.