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Hope you are not too stressed out with so much change to manage. I guess it's just another horrible bit of when we can't control our environment and it makes us feel terrible! Perhaps the positive from this is even greater empathy for the young people we care for? (Though I know you already have bucketloads). I trust things soon feel better for you all. Phoebe x

Sending you much sympathy. We moved house 2 years ago and I hated the upheaval. I had forgotten how tough it is moving house...not just the upheaval but the unfamiliar smells and light, the difficulties working out stupid things like the thermostats and how the lock on the front door sticks. I kept waking in the night feeling physically sick wondering where my cosy home had gone and how we would ever feel like we belonged here. Now it smells like us, and at least in mess, looks like ours, and I am getting there. It just takes time and a chance to settle into routines again, and having friends and family over helped hugely to help it feel more like us. Sending hugs and hope the routines will all settle down soon, that you find a chance to draw breath and take stock, and get a chance to start making it feel like yours. The more you live in your new space the more it will feel like yours but that its is purely down to time!

Thanks phoebe - yes it really resonates that my boys must be currently finding the change thing really difficult and must have always found it really difficult. Today I have pushed myself emotionally further than was sensible by having a heavy psychotherapy session immediately followed by a 2 hour interview with someone using our family as part of their research into families who have and haven't disrupted. Really glad I did both things but now could I so much do with curling up somewhere familiar for a good cry.

Big ((hugs)) GSH We've also had a mad week and the drastic change to the boards was one change I could have done without.... Hopefully you will get some stability now for a while at least....

After 12 months of just about every major life event possible, I'm completely with you :)

A virtual selection of fat rascals and cinnamon buns on their way fresh from my oven together with a cosy throw and balsam tissues . Hope you can bundle up for a bit and just recharge . Love, strength and turquoise and breathe..... Mxx

I know it sounds daft but try and find something this weekend that IS in your comfort zone - when I moved here, 2 hours from my family to start my teaching career, I found ridiculous comfort in Starbucks because it was just the same as at home...