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Ad (16) went into Fostercare under a section 20 at the beginning of this year. She was placed in a neighbouring town and the honeymoon period lasted longer than we expected – she completed her GCSE’s and despite much moaning and the occasional hiccup has been kept safe. She has always wanted to move back to our town (10 minute train ride) but won’t consider coming back home. We have managed to maintain her links with us at home, text contact, phone calls and weekly visits and there is definitely something that draws her back here, on her terms but….SS have looked but have said there are no placements available locally, this week she took matters into her own hands, went awol and sofa surfed for two nights. She refused to go back to the Fostercarers and yesterday did agree to move in with respite Fostercarers until the weekend while other options are investigated. These other options appear to be the local YMCA, where at the end of last year we were advised she would be eaten alive! No one who has been working with her feels she is ready to live independently but it feels like we are running out of options.Rational thought is not one of her strengths! All she sees is this perceived independence with no adult interference. She is incredibly articulate but lies lies lies and in the usual way in adoptionland bounces between being a toddler and an older teen.Perhaps an emergency bed in the YMCA will buy some time for a supported living option to suddenly miraculously appear in the nick of time Just feeling a bit frustrated and wondering what to do for the best – sometimes I just want to leave her to it, to make her own choices and live by them, other times I just want to gather her up and protect her from all that has happened to her.Thanks for reading