Hello all, haven't posted for a long time. Hoping you wise ones on here can give me some much needed advice on how to cope with our AD (now 6, placed as a baby). From day 1 we knew we were dealing with a child who was very different from our first adopted child, who is an easygoing, loving, happy-chappy kid.
AD has attachment issues, problems with intimacy and off the scale screaming and howling fits every day during which she says and does really mean things. We have been seeing a child psychologist and have recently started Theraplay with her. But it's for myself that I'm looking for advice for. I am usually her "punchbag", the object of her rage and she says nasty things to me and has recently started coming at me ready to throw a punch. 9 out of 10 times I can deflect this nastiness but the 10th time I retaliate! Of course this is not acceptable, I am the adult and she's 6 year old child so I must control myself, at all times. Do any of you know of an anti-aggression training, perhaps similar to that given to police officers and prison wardens? Might this be of value to me? Any advice on how to look after myself whilst mothering this child is greatly appreciated.