What an emotional evening!
We were having a bit of a chat at the table this evening after tea and it all ended up quite emotional - in a good way.
Our 4yo asked what happened to birth mum (she was 18months when taken into care and doesn't really remember much of it) and then when reminded that she died, asked how. It was so direct that we gave her and her sister (8yo) the truthful answer about her drug overdose and how sometimes people can't overcome things, that they are now with us, it's perfectly normal to miss her and we will do everything we can to give them the best life possible.
It's the first time in 14 months that we have had such a conversation as they have always skirted around it a bit, and we haven't wanted to push them into anything. Our 8 year old has let out quite a bit that I think she has been holding in (finally!), while I think our 4yo has a better understanding of what death means now, so is processing what happened differently to before.
I can't help but think that tomorrow they are going to wake up as if the conversation didn't happen whilst I am so proud of the way they reacted and dealt with what we said ?
I don't know that I really have a question, but if anyone has any advice going forward I would be grateful - it's sometimes hard to talk to them together with the age gap!