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can''t help but compare...
Duckling
November 2, 2011 22:17
I am getting more and more concerned about DD and school... she is 11 (Year 7) but seems so behind her brother 8 (year 4) in some ways. I struggle to work out if he is advanced so making her look worse or if I really should be worrying about DD. We know she is behind, but school have been saying since year 2 (when she came off an IEP) that she doesn''t need any additional support and is just a little below the normal level which is not surprising given her start in life. At the end of year 6 she came out at 3a/4c level which would seem to back them up, but progress seems very slow and I can''t help but worry.Example: DS says at dinner tonight - "yawns are contagious" DD - what does contagious mean? DS then explains. Later on DS says "you could see it with the naked eye" DD starts messing around with her eyes and we all explain ''Oh...'' she says.DS talks about millimetres and says there are 100 in 10cms... DD says ''How do you know that? I didn''t know that?'' Long conversation ensues and it is obvious that DS has all the relationships between mm,cm,m,km (and grammes/kg) off pat and DD does not have a clue... So... is DS ahead and making her look worse or should I really be worried and be pushing school now for some assessments/extra help for DD? BTW DD is lovely in school always gets ten tons of house points, and is always well off their radar for behaviour - DS, now that''s another story! He does have an IEP!Duckling
Donatella
November 3, 2011 11:20
I know what you mean Duckling. My eldest is in year 6 so will be going up to high school next year. I would say he's probably averagely intelligent - certainly not the brightest spark but he's doing okay. But he's a bit dozy, scatterbrained and seems to be away with the fairies a lot of the time.Middly, with all his problems, runs rings around him in the intelligence department and it's quite comical at times to see middly patiently explaining things to bigly. Middly's 7. Middly gets things in a way that bigly doesn't. Maths, logic, science all comes easily to middly because he's interested in those subjects. He's incisive, asks pertinent questions, works things out for himself and is incredibly smart. I know it might be different for you two but certainly mine have different skills - and bigly's are somewhat more deeply buried than middly's
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Duckling
November 7, 2011 17:31
Thanks Garden & DonatellaWe have DS's parents evening tomorrow and they have issued everyone with a link to their on line reports (new thing). The reports include very clear graphs on progress. For the first time ever I can see clearly where he stands. He is quite a long way ahead for reading, and a bit ahead for maths, but is still behind with his writing (which is to be expected as he has fine motor control difficulties) but has a big green light for the effort he is putting in on this. Normally parents evenings and reports are all about his behaviour and his writing. Now I can see that beyond this he is really doing rather well. So, DS is ahead academically in some areas, but that does not stop the fact that DD is behind and in my view is being left to drift because she is so nice and well behaved (at school at least!). I have rung school today to ask for a meeting to get some sort of review/reports done. She is at a small private school due to her other issues (fear of crowds etc), so we are going to have to pay extra for any outside involvement/reports. I thought I might as well get them involved as then I will be paying for people they will listen to, and they can do the running around to organise it!Duckling
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