We have recently adopted a 4 and 2 year old who were in care for most of their lives and who prior to being adopted didn’t have any contact with their birth parents.
We were given their lifestory books by their local authority which includes lots of photos of their birth parents, but we are unsure of when to start showing it to them. We once showed a picture of the birth parents to the 4 year old but he didn’t really recognise them or knew who they were.
We have introduced the concept of adoption to the 4 year old and explained to him why some children are in care and adopted. However, since he hasn’t asked any questions in relation to his particular circumstances (only general questions about adopted children) we haven’t gone into too much detail about his past and haven’t yet reviewed the lifestory book with him.
We were wondering what other people’s experiences were. Should we review the lifestory book with the children regardless of their interest (in a age-sensitive manner) which some people have advised us to do, or wait until they start asking questions about their past which some people have also advised us to do? Thanks!