Hello
I have had a look around the forums and can't see an obvious thread on this.
My husband and I had been undergoing IVF - once on the NHS and once private. We always knew the second attempt would be the last as didn't want to keep going through it so have always had adoption in the back of our heads as a way to start a family.
Has anybody got any experiences of adopting after IVF? We have reached out to our LA and a VAA, both of whom have advised there is a 6 month period before you can start approval after failed IVF because there are a lot of things that come up during the approval process that might be hard emotionally. We completely understand that.
What have people's experiences been, who have previously had unsuccessful IVF and are now adopters?
We are reading everything we can online at the moment and there's so much conflicting information.
Presently, at this moment, we are feeling the VAA is the right route for us. We just got a good feeling from the SW we spoke with and felt that there would be lots of support.
At what point do you have to decide and commit which you go with? Both the LA and VAA have said we can attend open evenings in the summer, and we'd like to go with both and get a better feeling - it's so hard when everything is online and not in person!
If you decide to go with a LA, do you have to go with your own LA or can you choose another area? (that might be a stupid question apologies)
I understand the wait might be a little longer with a VAA, but the agency we spoke to said they have never had a child return to the birth family and reassured us that most legal issues have been resolved by the time the child would come to us. Would that be consistent with people's experiences?
The LA told us that 90% of their cases are resolved before the child comes to us - even with children under one. That statistic, I have to say, made me a little wary as it didn't ring true to me.
Clearly, we are very early on but trying to do as much research as we can so we are prepared for the journey ahead. So appreciate any advice or cautionary tales.
Thank You