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Still ranting.....
jas58
August 29, 2013 16:11
AS is still ranting every chance he gets about all his debts and how he has no money..has made no effort to get to the job centre! Now demanding we pay for him to complete a drink driving awareness course, so he can get his licence back earlier! When I suggested it might be better if he did this himself, so he can take ownership of his misfortunes he launched into a long tirade about how we don''t care a jot etc etc, but with much fouler language than this.I hung up..................
Corkwing
August 29, 2013 16:18
Well done for hanging up and for not giving in. You're right: he DOES need to take responsibility and, if he can't, you can't do it for him.Stay strong!Love,Corkwing
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lilyofthevalley
August 29, 2013 16:20
Sending you support. It can be very tough. You're doing the right thing. Lily x
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FIM
August 29, 2013 21:23
Give yourself a large pat on the back for not giving in. It is very hard when you're trying to fill that bottomless hole some of our children seem to have.
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jollymummy
September 2, 2013 09:04
Well done on not being drawn into it! I agree with you that if you pay for it, he will not take ownership. These children of ours are very good at painting us as the "baddies" and stating that we don't care/ never do anything for them when they are denied something!JM x
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suffolk puff
September 2, 2013 12:49
I too am 'hanging up'...or more often...ignoring texts..(by that I mean..'delete!!!)or sometimes replying to a totally inappropriate full of absolute rubbish, personally directed tirade with...'I'm fine darling, THANK you for asking..yes my aches and pains are a LOT better this week, oh you know....just busy doing lovely things, getting a life,settling in... THANKS for showing an interest...byyeeeee'then hanging up!!!might as well talk nonsense if you have to listen to nonsense.
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mayan49
September 2, 2013 16:43
Sending belated hugs and strength - a really tough thing to have to do and hope he is beginning to get the message and not causing hassle. We had a curious bout of problems with the phone line and ansaphone and our ds soon got the message -all other messages via mobile were directed to dh who he hesitated to get stroppy with in any event. Even though our ds wasn't living with us as he couldn't any more - the phone stuff was also a control thing with him so putting boundaries around it helped us in the long run.All good wishesMx
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