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Talk about waiting.
pluto
January 16, 2012 10:31
The word waiting gets a whole different meaning when you adopt a child from Eastern Europe. As some of you might remeber I met a little boy just over 6 months ago at the orphanage where he lives. After meeting him I signed the papers to commit to his adoption. Than you wait, and wait, and hope they do not need extra information, as this can lead to even more delays. Than after months waiting you get informed of a court date, this is exiting and scary at the same time, as you really have no idea what goes on. Sometimes they rescedule a date because documents need updating or new information is needed.There are delays because of holidays and political issues what get on. I was relieved to receive the news half December that I was the adoptive parent of a 5y10m old boy. Than we have delays because of the Christmas holidays, the wait for a new birth certificate and other ''things'' (I can not tell you what but things in EE are somewhat less efficiently organised, lol)With anticipation and happyness I am looking forwards to meet my boy in 2 weeks time.Basically after picking him up we have to stay a short week in the country until his passport is issued. I have booked accomodation and the flight, I was ready to pick him up 6 months ago!I have a dear friend who will come with me, she has been on the first trip as well and met the child. And ofcourse child nr1 comes as the first time this time as well. He really lookes forwards to this ''holiday'' as I organised accomodation with a swimming pool! In his mind this new brother can come in handy when it comes to doing tasks around the house. Basically the new boy will do all his tasks and he''ll help him. Nice try .My first adoption was a horrible experience, it was contested and dragged on and on, nearly 2 years. I am so happy that this time I do not have to deal with that rubbish. I think it is all so wrong that birth families can contest after the children have moved into their adoptive families. Anyway this is my story so far about another sort of waiting! I am happy now the wait is nearly over.
turtle
January 16, 2012 11:01
Wishing you all the best Pluto. Keep us updated on how it all goes and when you finally manage to get him home, sounds like a very long wait.x
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Donatella
January 16, 2012 11:25
Congratulations Pluto ... I'm sure the long wait will be worth it. x
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BermudaBlue
January 16, 2012 12:51
I have been thinking about you - that it was about time you heard something! Hope it all goes well, especially the relationship between the two boys! Looking forward to hearing from you when you get back.BermudaBlue
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ducks
January 16, 2012 12:56
Great news Pluto !Fingers crossed for the adjustment period with AS1.And how did the canoe trip go ? I have been thinking of you. And about how cold it must have been !!!!
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pluto
January 16, 2012 17:40
Now I read it back it reads indeed that I was getting ready for a camping trip, this was not my intention just an example of a healthy/good for attachment activity, where the child is not in charge but works together with the parent. And free of charge! Better than 'bombing' is 'bonding'.Coming back to camping I have camped by minus 21degrees, this was challenging. I made a big mistake, I closed every zip of the tent, probably thinking something like 'keep the heat in'.(which heat?)The equipment was good, my way of thinking not. After needing the toilet 2! times, this meant getting dressed again ,brrrrr, eventually I fell asleep. I did not loose my nose, toes or fingers, I waked up with ice all over my face,(I felt a bit cold but nothing extreme) and every bit of clothing outside the sleeping bag was frozen solid. A woolen jumper could stand up, I could not bent the arms of my jacket. Now the lesson if you feel the urge to go camping in artic temperatures, always leave 2 zips open of the tent,the ventilation will prevent that your breath will make everything wet what than instantly freezes. It is very difficult to get warm ones you're wet, from sweat or condensation, when I look at Bear Gilles (extreme survival) I never understand how he can get dry. Sittting by a small fire and that is suppose to dry his whole outfit, impossible. Just try to dry one pair of socks and by a fire by freezing temperatures and see how long this takes, imagen an outfit. I think he might have an assistant carrying dry outfits.
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cowgirl
January 16, 2012 20:50
Huge congrats ! I remember reading your post on a dreary day & that feels ages ago to me let alone you & your little boys ! So good to hear you are able to count the days & hours off now & the wait is nearly over I am suitably impressed with your elder boy - smart cookie that one ! P.s Bear Gillies alledgy never stays out in the cold & goes back to a nice warm hotel room.P.p.s his kids names are very unusual IMHO
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pluto
January 16, 2012 21:30
REALLY? he sleeps in a 5* hotel? I am still impressed by the dangerous things he does, do you think they serve bugs in the hotel?lol What are the names of his kids? I'll google it.
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pluto
January 16, 2012 21:35
Found it 3 boys: Jesse, Marmaduke and Huckleberry.And than we think out children have unusual names! I like the name Jesse!
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cowgirl
January 16, 2012 23:39
Hi - yes sorry I got distracted & meant to google & post the names Jesse must feel hard done by with his name against the other boys Of course they could do a Zowie Bowie - doesnt he call himself Duncan now ? Pluto I am impressed with your camping tales. I am more a Steve backshall or ray Myers girl - bear gillies too pushy for me. After he got inside that dead camel I sort went off him & the scam of the hotels Put me off completely. He has his own clothing line tooBet he wouldn't last 2 mins camping in the Cotswolds with electric, BBQ, kids play area, fridge & blow up mattress !
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Murray
January 22, 2012 00:05
Congratulations pluto. Glad that your wait is nearly over and hope that court goes well.
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pluto
January 22, 2012 10:04
Court has already been, it is now fingers crossed that nothing goes wrong last minute.
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