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Well done you and congratulations. :)

Hello, good to see some action on this board. Well done. How long have they been with you for?

We are just about to go to our first 2 prep classes next week. Any advice?

Hi Good luck with prep and just be yourselves and remember your being assessed at all times!!!! Regards Hubelly

Thank you Hubelly, I found them so much easier than I thought I would. Very relaxed and positive. Now I am actually looking forward to the next one; never thought I would say that. Fox2013

I feel your sentiment! I too thought it would be quite a hard thing to do but also found it very relaxing and thought provoking. Good luck Hubelly

Hi, Myself and my partner have just finished the training course and are waiting to get paired with our social worker for the assessment. I don't really know if I have a questions, I'm just looking to get to know people in similar positions that have been through the process. We are very excited, but we are apprehensive about the reaction of people when they find out that our child has two dads. Do you know of any groups that we could get in contact with to meet more gay adopters... RM12

Hi Our kids have been with us now for quite a few years now and i feel if your comfortable with who you are then you will attract friends with kids who like you for you and nothing else! Ours have friends who ask why has x got two daddies and with the help of our kids we explain why. Id advise you to join https://www.newfamilysocial.org.uk/ as the group is an invaluable support. Hope this helps Regards Hubelly

It depends where you live but as mentioned, www.newfamilysocial is a good place to start.

Hi All, We are a lesbian couple just waiting to complete stage 1 of process as soon as my partners police check comes back. So far the process has been positive from the training to the social workers support. We have joined NFS but it seems our nearest support is 30 miles away and we live in a big city so a little disappointing . Good luck to everyone where ever you are in the process... 2cats mother

What a great thread to start.

Hi my on has been with me 4yrs nowmy daughter has been with me 10month . Now im inthe final stages of adopting her sibling hope you are ok?

Hello, Haven't been on here in a while. Thought I would share the positive updates of our journey so far. We've finished all our home visits now, our references have all had their visits, the PAR is done and we are now just waiting for panel in a few weeks. We are marking the days off the calender :) Our SW has already started showing us profiles and we looking forward to finding 'the one' to complete our family. Hows everyone else getting on?

Hello, I'm a single 24 yo who's just applied for the whole process. Everyone is supportive except one friend who thinks I'm too young. Does anyone have any advice or words of encouragement? Thank you GB

Hi GB, I admire you ! I am adopting as a couple and it is daunting enough but I think as long as you have support from friends and family you will be fine. How many people naturally have kids at 24 ? Loads so why is it different if this is the route you have chosen to take ! Good luck. We have just started our home study and have a panel date mid april and although it seems to have taken a while to get this far suddenly it seems real. Stick through the annoying bits and make the most of pre kids as we are trying to do. A friend who is a single adoptor advised me not to waste all our energy on the process as once you have a child thats when the energy is needed !! Good luck and true friends will believe (and support) you. 2catsmother

Hi GB, I admire you ! I am adopting as a couple and it is daunting enough but I think as long as you have support from friends and family you will be fine. How many people naturally have kids at 24 ? Loads so why is it different if this is the route you have chosen to take ! Good luck. We have just started our home study and have a panel date mid april and although it seems to have taken a while to get this far suddenly it seems real. Stick through the annoying bits and make the most of pre kids as we are trying to do. A friend who is a single adoptor advised me not to waste all our energy on the process as once you have a child thats when the energy is needed !! Good luck and true friends will believe (and support) you. 2catsmother

Thank you :) means a lot :) I've got more and more support the more I talk to people about it and they are pleased for me to go down this route! I've worked in Childcare for 8 years this year so no chance of pre kids lol Yeah I got told it's a lengthy process but to be patient as it's worth it in the end

Its great you have child care experience in the form of work (me too) but its the adult play time we are trying to make the most of...inbetween saving up, sorting house etc.

Its great you have child care experience in the form of work (me too) but its the adult play time we are trying to make the most of...inbetween saving up, sorting house etc.