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Can't see that it's a problem if you are going to be open about them being adopted. If you are both dual heritage then you are both presumably half white! This is often forgotten about when mixed children are growing up as society always sees them as black. If they are the right children for you I'd say go for it.

Hi I have a similar experience but not through adoption. My mother has white, Jewish and Asian heritage but presents as white and I have two half brothers one has Jamaican paternity and the other white. My father is mixed race Asian. We all look very different but I think the main thing to be aware of is that you help them understand their backgrounds so they can feel proud of themselves and each other. People will be curious and if your children understand and are confident of who they are then most people will respond positively. Me and my brothers didn't really understand our background so couldn't project a sense of who we were which other people found difficult to deal with. I think it's rare for mixed race people raising white children but not the other way around, I think it happens more in America. I am about to adopt a mixed race lo who has older white siblings and their adopters were approached to keep them together. I think you're right to think so deeply about this as although in reality there is only one human race, sadly that's not the world we live in right now. I personally would love to parent children of different heritages but then I have grown up with this.

Witch - this post is, in my opinion, a clear example of why there should be private areas for members. I read in another thread that that you were at the Exchange Day yesterday, as was I. Putting two and two together I am quite certain that I know which children you are referring to, as I had a conversation with their SW. If I can make that link from two pieces of information, in this instance, I'm sure birth families and SWs can easily make links from reading our posts. It's quite scary.

I have no experience of adopting children in this way. However I know a family where the Father is of mixed heritage and the Mother is White european. The eldest of the three children is very dark and looks as dark as her Dad. The second is inbetween the two and the third is so fair that she's fairer than her Mum. So, it can happen naturally. Just thought I'd add it into the mix.MF

Hi all,Thanks for your sharing your views and wisdom, we've decided to at least exchange paperwork and take it from there.Witch.

HiIt seems quite common we've been shown profiles that have been sent by FF and SWs of shildren who either have different fathers and therefore different backgrounds, and children who although they have the same father the present very differently. One recently of the older sibling being dark skinned and black curly haired and the other blonde and blue eyes. We are a dual heritage couple and a lot of the children we've been shown who are also dual ethnicity present as white at first look.And like some others have said it's up to you whether they are the right children for you for lots of different reasons.And honeybee I agree with you they do need private areas as it's difficult to ask questions about your own situation and keep yourself confidential if the questions are specific.Sel

got to agree its not so uncommon as people think.my six kids are all different shades and my second oldest dd could be taken for a white lady(she is 21) yet her sister full sibs looked black/asian mix with dark skin.these are our two that are not adopted and have same mum and dad.lolthere are not alike at all.my four adopted children all are mixed race bt the colour difference is amazing two dark and one light brown with our hobbit very light.yet these all had white muma nd black dad.dont let it worry you if these are the right pair.xxx

been there done that sending pm Jet