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First meeting with FCs... Questions to ask?
Aquarelle
June 29, 2013 13:47
I know this must be a repeat topic, but what do foster carers expect from their first meeting with a prospective adopter? Going to panel in a few days and meeting with the FCs just before...I did find a long all-questions list on AUK forums and adapted it to ''my'' child, but I don''t really want my first meeting with the FCs to be a full-on interview... I''m thinking that I should ask all the points which could be awkward to raise later during intros (in presence of the child), but what are they? or is the first meeting perhaps very informal, just getting a feel for each others?
Ket1
June 29, 2013 17:22
Good luckWe used the and adapted just like you and it felt kinda awkward as I was reading the questions of my 4 page listand wwriting the answers down.I really wanted to know all there is to know about little one. Guess its all a learning as you go once little one is placed. For example the lo may sleep really well but that could possibly all change because of a different environment. I think the little one's routine is probably one of the important things to know to start with.Other than that I dont knw without going into a long list.Xxx
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Aquarelle
June 30, 2013 09:13
Thanks Ket1. Will take my list along and use it as a guideline. Hopefully the foster carers will have done this before and fill in any gap... I was just wondering if anyone here wished there were questions they asked then ââ¬â but didn't. In particular for an older child... I guess I'm more thinking in terms of behaviour patterns, how they deal with specific issues etc.
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Donatella
June 30, 2013 09:37
Far easier to email the questions to the fc which will give her the chance to think about them and reply when it's convenient for her. You're not going to be able to write stuff down face to face anyway.
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Aquarelle
June 30, 2013 11:21
Well I'm not thinking of reading out a list of questions or writing answers down! Intros will be long enough for all the fruits and veg to fall in gradually. I just wondered if there are key questions which are best asked at initial meeting (when the child isn't present). Every time I talked to a SW about the child I learned something different, sometimes it felt like a different child, so I want to make the best of this first opportunity with the people who know him best (or so).For instance I'm thinking of asking about tantrums, how they're triggered, how they're best dealt with. I also want to know how the FCs really feel about the placement, I know they're very attached... I want to know everything they know!and not walk out wishing I had asked so much more...Anyway I guess this is an impossible list to make. Will see how the meeting unfolds.
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dizzy-d
July 1, 2013 17:55
Good luck and congratulations I've not had to meet fcs as I was one but most fc will try to give you as much info about lo as they can ( well I did )but I've found as Ket1 said finding out routines and maybe favourite things they like . Trying to keep things the same as they are used to initially you can gradually change things if they don't fit in with your family. Get a contact no for fcs and if you remember something you wished you'd asked ring them up and ask they wont mind . Hope all goes well x
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amh
July 1, 2013 23:06
a good one to ask is what was the child behavior like when they first arrived at Fc.how did they deal with it. It could give you an insight as to what regressions you might expect when your lo arrives.then give yourself time to think how you will deal with if if they arise.
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