I posted some time ago about AD5 "stealing" items and food. I followed people's advice and thought things were improving but her issues have grown and she is making family life unbearable. I've asked GP to refer to a pediatrician but it's a long wait and we just don't know how to manage right now.
She has what we believe to be interoception issues - she doesn't feel pain properly, she is always hungry and thirsty, was difficult to toilet train and GP agreed this should be followed up.
She has very little (if any) empathy and hurts her siblings (no trauma bonds as separate placements and she wasn't the first). She is never sorry and just thinks she was justified as they were doing something she didn't like. It's all about her.
She is very controlling. She demands to choose every game, activity, TV programme etc and has huge rages and meltdowns if she doesn't get her way. She gets to go to bed last but now she is fighting that and will smash the door and the floors with anger. She shares a bedroom and tries to wake her siblings up with this. We are trying to find a way to give her her own room.
She still "steals" and she lies a lot. She is never sorry for anything and seems so blank emotionally. My husband and I are walking on eggshells trying not to enrage her but it's ruining our family life. Her siblings play beautifully and then she comes and trashes their lego or tears up their drawings. She verbally insults them making them cry. Even worse her siblings have told me they wish we could send her away!
These rages used to be at home only but now they are happening more and more she does them anywhere. She demanded a snack at a shop and when we said no as we were on our way to dinner she sent the drinks in the cabinet flying everywhere and we had to leave the shop. You can't reason with her.
She isn't delayed currently but she has little focus and is emotionally very immature.
Any ideas how to manage this or what we might be dealing with? Any way to get fast help? How do we access ASF and how long does this take?