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Thank you for asking, Serrakunda. It's nearly three weeks since I found her dead body. At the time the cause of death was unknown and the flat was treated as a potential crime scene and the locks changed by the police. So she was taken to the mortuary for a post mortem. It was a great relief to be told that the outcome of the post mortem was that she had died from a massive stroke. Immediately following the death I had to make arrangements for the funeral. I was blessed in so many ways. There were three of us working together - me, her partner, and her best friend. We had all loved Jade. It worked really well and we could all support each other. The service at her local church was conducted by 'The Reverend' who had befriended Jade and done so much to help her. The church was beautiful and so was the service. The funeral director asked to arrange her funeral as he and his wife had known Jade through her dogs. He was wonderful. The cemetery is lovely and peaceful. We will be getting a headstone for the grave soon. We are presently busy clearing and cleaning her council flat to return it to the council. They have been very understanding. I took her 3 dogs home with me. They are living separately from my two.They have settled well but I am having problems with one dog that has been behaving aggressively towards the other 2 in the garden. I have been in contact with Dogs Trust to ask if they can rehome this dog as it is making things very difficult for me. She is a nice little dog and I think maybe needs to be an only dog. The other two seem very happy. They are best friends. One is an older dog and the other a younger rescue dog from Romania. Emotionally I am up and down. Sometimes I feel OK. Other times I feel grief stricken. However I regard her death as a merciful release. Her condition was worsening by the day. She was suffering from end stage alcoholism, had uncontrollable seizures, and had alcoholic dementia. She would not have wanted to carry on living like that. I was incredibly fortunate financially as my mother had passed away just over a year ago and I inherited some money. So I have been able to pay for the funeral expenses. I don't know what I would have done without that money. Lily x

Thinking of you lily and sending love xxxx

This is the lovely church where the funeral service was held: http://www.boghallchurch.org.uk/ Lily

Beautiful! I like the messy church day and costy coffee - clearly a place with a sense of humour! We are looking at dogs trust - by chance we had someone ring the week before asking for sponsorship and I mentioned my AD volunteering at the RSPCA - she said if I sponsor a dog as a birthday present or something the person themselves can have contact with the sponsored dog - so we are looking into it

I think it varies. I have sponsored a dog through Dogs Trust for some years. This particular dog does not have visitors though. Lily

Thanks for the update Lily. I am thinking of you and hope you are finding support from your friends and neighbours. Jade has been in my thoughts too as both you and I have been on this forum for many years and relaying her quirky comments and insights have helped our journey with the girls. Johanna xx

Sending much love and strength across the miles Lily - you are in my thoughts. So glad to hear that you were able to have the support of Jade's partner and friend at such a harrowing time for you all. I hope you continue to find some comfort and support from those who cared for her. Hope you are looking after yourself and getting good support. Mxx

How are you doing Lily xx

I am getting on OK. We have cleared and cleaned Jade's flat and returned it to the council. There is a plaque on her grave marking it. There are plants, flowers and toys left by her friends. I have ordered a headstone. I miss her very much but am glad she did not go on suffering. Lily