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Oreo28 May 20, 2020 09:03

I thought I’d say hi after finally joining here following a couple years of reading and learning (I must have read pretty much all posts in the archived threads!)

Me (mixed male) and my girlfriend (White female) began the adoption process in January. We are looking to adopt BME siblings.

The process is still going ahead, albeit it slightly stalled with the difficulties surrounding lockdown, change of SW in this time etc. But this is pretty understandable given the situation.

While we’re under no impression that adopting siblings will be any easy task! We feel positive and hopeful.

My partner is a teacher and I work with sexually abused children (with much experience surrounding trauma and therapeutic responses etc).

Should be completing stage 1 once our new SW is in touch.

It would be nice to hear from and link in with others here, given how isolating it may feel at this time for all of us.

:)

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Safia May 20, 2020 11:08

Could you ask your SW if any of the others in your group would like to set up a WhatsApp group or exchange numbers? I’m sure you’re not the only ones wanting that contact - local contacts are good too as they give you the option of future meet-ups and you can discuss your own agency procedures - on here you can compare agencies / experience which is also good ?

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Safia May 20, 2020 11:11

Sorry that was meant in reply to your other post about making contact with others - saying you had one session and hadn’t had the chance to exchange numbers (I think that was you?) I seem to be having trouble posting this morning - there seems to be an extra step involved

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Oreo28 May 20, 2020 19:22

No problem at all! (And yes it was me)

I appreciate the reply. And the double response makes me feel more popular... haha

Yes we’ve asked our SW, but she’s been off for 6wks now, we will be asking our new SW and hopefully find some locals in the same boat!

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May 25, 2020 10:10

@Oreo I know we've conversed elsewhere ? what's made you decide that now is the time? Do you want 2 siblings, or? I read a case study in one of my LA literature about a couple who adopted 3. They went from a family of 2 to a family of 5 overnight! Amazing ?

We starting looking into adoption 2 years ago too, but I avoided the forums until now as I thought they might be a bit full of doom and gloom. Everyone always says what a difficult process adoption is so I didn't think I needed to hear more negativity, but I've read 2 posts saying how fantastic the process was and so that gives me energy for that's to come!

Which year group does your gf teach?

@safia good idea re. Number exchange. We have our interactive 6 couple online training next week so I'll probably do the same ??

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Oreo28 May 25, 2020 18:45

Hi again Marshmallows!

Hmm, what made us decide now?

I guess we wanted to make sure we were in a more stable setting before looking to start a family. We finally ended our long renting chapter and bought a house end of last year so we have a home that’s ours. We have good jobs and we worked abroad a couple years ago so we got a big chunk of travel out the way to cure itchy feet.

what about you? What’s made now feel right for you guys?

I think ‘ideally’ we’d prefer 2 but want to remain realistic as to what we can manage. But we will see further in the process what situation we feel we could best provide for.

Youve got your interactive training next week? I bet you’re looking forward to it. Do you feel ready for it?

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