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CAMHS referral - two daddies ???
martiancats
September 11, 2012 06:41
We''ve been "potentially matched" with two little boys from anther area and have recently been told that the boys keep saying "I want a mummy" when their FC talks to them about having two daddies in their future family.Their SW has said she needs to speak to CAMHS to get their opinion but meantime has cancelled our child appreciation day and matching panel. She''s also told us ( via our SW ) that she and the boys'' family finder are going to visit another family now, in order not to delay the boys'' plans.Nightmare !!!!!Has anyone come across this as an issue before and does anyone know how long CAMHS normally takes to get an appointment, please???The boys are in the North East.
Anita
September 11, 2012 21:13
How old are the boys?It sounds that CAMHS is already involved with the boys, otherwise it could take some time. Because you would think someone who knows the history of the boys could help in making a decision whether it needs preparation for the boys that they could possible be living with two dads or their wish of a mummy has to be accommodated.It sounds bad that you had already a matching panel date which has been cancelled.If the family finder for the boys is looking at another family, I wouldn't put too much hope into it. sorry, but it is a tough game out there and if the other family is a heterosexual couple and fits the criteria, there is not much hope. Good luck
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amh
September 12, 2012 15:48
I know it is tough for you right now but if the children are going to struggle with 2 daddies along with any other issues they may have then maybe it is not right for them.However would question how was it handled maybe the children have not thought about a different family set up.That would depend on their ages. Surely that should have been thought about before you were approached.good luck
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ducks
September 13, 2012 11:25
If you can, let go of this match and move on. Lots of our kids struggle with the emotions around mummies as it's often the BM who has been experienced as actively neglectful ... so a set up with no mums is a great family for some kids. SWs should have thought this through a bit more !!!!Hang in there. See you on camp next year
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martiancats
September 13, 2012 23:26
thanks
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