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We got approved

Monkey&McMoo June 10, 2019 22:14

We went to panel today after two long years of assessment.

Our Social Worker had warned us it would be a long meeting and we would have to fight our corner.

But we were asked a few questions and out of the room in just ten minutes. Our Social Worker sat down with us looking confused. We sat looking at each other worriedly. Why had it been so short?

Then when we’re had been sitting for just three minutes, the chair came in. And told us they had made a unanimous decision that we were good to adopt..

So, many thanks for your kind words and support so far. Here’s hoping the next wait, to find our child, will be at least a bit shorter than two years.


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GK1309 June 10, 2019 22:17

MASSIVE congratulations, that is fantastic news. I am so so pleased for you, time to celebrate. xx

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Austin2014 June 10, 2019 22:45

Yay. Fixally got to panel today after such a long journey, we got a unamious yes.

I cried before, during and after

So our journey moves on x

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Pedro June 11, 2019 07:23

Congratulations! We wish you all the best and hope that you find your child very soon.

However be mindful that you are about to start what most people consider to be the most stressful part of the process! The assessment stage is a walk in the park compared to the matching stage. There are lots of good advice here and in the linkmaker Q&A section which I’m sure will be very useful.

And keep in mind that the reasons why your social worker thought it would be a long meeting and you would have to fight your corner, might still prove to be a challenge during the matching process. As you share your PAR (prospective adopters report) with the social workers of the children that you are interested in, they will have access to all the information your social worker has. Therefore it’s important that you are prepared and that you are able to explain how you would overcome any points that might be considered a negative (or even work on these points while you are searching for a match - for example, one of the things that was highlighted as a potential negative for us was a limited understanding of therapeutic parenting approaches, so during the matching stage we attended several training courses to improve this and our chances of finding a match).

The matching panel tends to be easier than the assessment panel, although you will probably feel a lot more nervous since the former will be about your child.

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Monkey&McMoo June 13, 2019 10:18

Thanks for the replies.

Austin2014 I'm glad you were approved too.


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Izzy June 13, 2019 22:50

Congratulations! So happy for you xx

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