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arranged fostering for a friend
mommymulvey3
January 22, 2018 22:07
I desperately need some advise! I will keep it as short as possible but try to make it so your able to understand the situation. a friend of mine is currently 9 weeks pregnant and wants us to adopt the baby. we want to adopt the baby more than anything! we know we cant do an arranged adoption as it isn't legal in the UK..... BUT can our friend chose us as guardians of the baby? can she legally say that from birth she would like the baby to live with us and be cared for by us? she isn't in the position emotionally or in any way to have this baby to keep (I cant go in to it much without needing to wright a book!) I have obviously tried getting her help. she has made up her mind that she wants the baby to come to us (she wants us to adopt we know we cant do that right away).. she has said if theres no way that we can legally have the baby in any way be it adoption foster or legal guardians that she will be terminating the pregnancy. obviously we want to do everything we can to make this happen and to bring this baby home to us but we don't know if we have a leg to stand on legally. is it possible for her to sign over the baby to us imidiatly after the birth and if so in what way? she does not want to even hold the baby after the birth. she will only continue with the pregnancy if the baby comes directly to us and not to the system.
Pear Tree
January 23, 2018 00:25
Hi, the sort of adoption you are considering is unusual. Iâm no expert but you might consider a few things. First you cannot do a private adoption. This isnât legal in the uk. If you were to take on the baby in a âprivate fosteringâ arrangement you could apply to court having had the child for a year for an adoption order to be made. The court might order a report to be done on things at that point. There might be scope for the council to agree the baby comes to you as ârelative friend carersâ while they process you as adopters for a known child (this used to be on a form f2). But I imagine theyâll do a fostering assessment on you first. In your shoes I would have a look at surrogacy and what safeguards couples waiting for the baby do to cover themselves in case the childâs mother changes her mind etc. But I think ss will be loudly encouraging birth mum to keep the baby. Potentially the social services might not be very keen on you wanting to be assessed for adoption because theyâve got their own list of children needing adoptive placement - so in effect you donât reduce their list but increase their workload. You could get round this potentially by hiring a private social worker to do your adopter reports, but Iâd think ss would have to arrange this Whatever you decide, youâll need to meet with the social care lot that deal with adoptions to discuss a way forward. Lots of American adoptions happen this way, but it is extremely rare in the UK
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Serrakunda
January 23, 2018 09:16
fron a quick google search, there is a way you can enter into an essentially private fostering arrangement, but it is regulated, you must inform social services and they will do an assessement as to whether you are suitable She cannot just 'sign ' the baby over to you. It is illegal to do this without informing social services and going through due process. You may see this as the answer to your adoption dreams, but from the information you have given in this and your other post, this lady is very vulnerable and needs support, not being facilitated to give her baby away. I'm not sure you have considered the future. If she is a friend, will you continue to see her, will she be in your lives, what if she changes her mind 6 months down the line, have you thought how it might be for her to see this baby with you. When would you enlighten this child who their birth mother is ? You need to think this through
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