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How refreshing....
jollymummy
August 21, 2013 05:17
... it is to actually have AD2''s behaviour recognised as being due to attachment issues. She had only been at her placement for 3 days and the deputy manager said that her behaviour is typical of that seen by adopted teenagers who have attachment problems. She was in a mental health unit for 7 months and they kept saying that we would have seen evidence of attachment issues before, so her behavior was conduct disorder and not attachment!Where she is now is a short-term placement (a crisis centre) until something more suitable becomes available. They are hoping this will be in 2 weeks at a centre closer to home (she is over 200 miles away and, in the best driving conditions, it took us over 3 hours to drive there yesterday). In the meantime she will be doing activities such as walking, caving, climbing, sailing, kayaking, horse riding. She has to camp out every other night. It sounds fantastic and I am hoping she is going to make the most of the opportunities to take part in these activities, even though none of us want her to be there, really.We have had a couple of hiccups with them not communicating with us (such as not calling us when she fell and needed to go to A&E) but I think this may be because they are not used to having kids there whose parents are so involved (who said controlling?). They have agreed to advise us of every incident involving her so hopefully that will now take place. Then, if we don''t hear, we can be assured that all is well.JM
Tokoloshe
August 21, 2013 09:48
It's good to hear that there is finally someone with the right expertise And that your DD has a good interim placement until you find one closer.
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oysterbabe64
August 22, 2013 10:21
Hi JM, you are sounding like that's a big relief to be listened to. As you rightly say, how refreshing!!As you know my son had to stay in his unit until a placement was found. That took way too long. The set up your DD has been moved to temporarily, although another move/change, sounds fantastic with all those activities on hand. My son would have benefitted from a few months in a place like that.As for lack of communication - well 18 months on for us and its still a huge problem with his placement. I actually get sick of repeating myself so much. I hope the next place she goes to will understand that we want to know regularly how our teen is.Keep us posted on her progress, is it possible you could stay over next time in the area, just a thought.Ob64 x
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jollymummy
August 23, 2013 21:29
Hi OB64. We are seeing out DD 2moro and the staff at her placement are driving her to us at a service station about a 2 1/2 drive for us (1 1/2 hours for them). I have to say they have been very accommodating. In a couple of weeks they are driving her to our hometown for her LAC review and will stay locally overnight so she can stay at home with us. We are very impressed with their flexibility and with the way they are treating our DD.Communication is such an easy thing to get right and so upsetting when it goes wrong! And it seems to be a common problem!JM x
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