Did you wince when you read that?
These derogatory terms are haunting me. Maybe I'm just hyper sensitive about it all? I'm concerned that these awful taunts are still 'acceptable'. There are certain topics that make us wince, maybe it's just me? Thoughts?
For the record, I didn't say anything to my sister!
I would have winced had it been an adult joking about his/her kids and adoption - because they should know better. But a child saying it without understanding ... can’t say I’ve ever come across it tbh.
There was a twitter post recently joking about adoption and which Davina McCall had made a ‘jokey’ comment on. That was inappropriate, particularly given her role on Long Lost Families.
If a child jokes about it then I’d use it as an opportunity to educate ... unfortunately some adults just don’t understand and don’t always want to
I wouldn’t have been surprised if a child had said it - children say hurtful things to each other - things that reveal their deepest fears - and to not belong to their family or to have been taken away from one - is a very deep fear - one of the reasons other children (and possibly some adults) find it so hard to accept adoption - and why it’s prevalent in fairy tales
My children say that in secondary school children use it as a cuss. One child starts off by saying: "You are adopted!" To which the other child responds: "At least I was wanted!"
My kids think it is funny, because it turns the stereotype on its head: The adopted child is the wanted one. They say it has never been said to them, only to birth children.
Our experience has been that other children react positively or disinterested.
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