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Cut out for this
Pear Tree
August 13, 2013 16:48
Are you cut out for this?The hard hitting reality of a life lived in chaos?Deceptions and the endless emails, calls messages appointments and meetings about the chaos.I feel very un cut out for thisNo wonder the birth families fail so readily, how could you in a chaotic state yourself maintain chaotic children Doing chaotic thingsThe fall out etc
Larsti
August 13, 2013 17:34
Hugs Pear TreeLove Larsti xxPS. Been reading a book on my Kindle by Theodore Dalrymple called 'Life at the Bottom'. He was a psychiatrist working in a prison and a hospital and has interesting things to say about the 'underclass'. I am finding it very instructive
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jollymummy
August 13, 2013 20:43
What I wonder is, what would have happened to these girls of mine had they stayed in the birth family? Why do we not hear of children who remain with their birth family despite early neglect suffering with the same issues we are facing?Would the behaviour they are now displaying have been accepted as "normal" or not too extreme?I keep having to remind myself about how bad my AD's behaviour is as I keep wavering in my decision to have her taken into care. It is bad enough having to deal with the girls' behaviour but I also feel as though I am continually fighting against the medical staff and the social workers who seem to be unable to communicate with the family. Why on earth should they tell us anything about what is going on? We are only the parents! The only time they feel the need to talk to us is if they expect us to do something! I have left several messages for a doctor to ring me about AD1 but noone has and the hospital are surprised that I am annoyed about this! And I told AD2's onsultant that I had a job interview at 11 on Thursday. What time did they schedule her discharge ward round for? 11! Because, apparently that was the only time one of the SW could make! Why couldn't the SW reschedule his/her other meetings? The other SW involved can do any other time. It's as though they intentionally made the time so that I could not be there!Sorry, but furious tonight about all the staff looking after my girls!
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amh
August 13, 2013 21:20
Massive hugsWe never signed up for any of this.we just wanted to be parents.you have been through so much and you are still here.God blessHam
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aprilshowers
August 14, 2013 07:47
Yes...well I am now, and the thing is it is people like us that will eventually change the system, it is people like us and our experiences with the chaos we live with that show the system our resolve and commitment that will get things changed....unfortunately it will be in tiny steps and dis-jointed over the whole country...but one day WE will be heard and taken notice of.As for birth families, they don't necessarily live with chaotic children they cause the chaos and it is their normal...you see it over and over again on shows like JK, Opreh etc.sending you peace and tranquillity wrapped in turquoise.
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