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Not really sure but I had to travel over an hour with my LO to stick to the plan which was similar - at my house, bedtime routine, then breakfast again with LO at fc house. Very tiring. It was felt it would not help LO to have them stay until they moved to me.It may depend if it is early in intros or later in intros and also on age of child Although it was very tiring I think it was best for LO. However, I did not have another child to think of. I cannot see that asking is a problem though. I asked to postpone intros - that set cat among pigeons - but they agreed (although family finder did phone my sw to check I hadn't got cold feet). But they were flexible when I explained my reasoning.Hopefully, others with more concrete answer/who have had another child to consider will come along and give you some advice.Minnie x

We had a long - several weeks introduction plan which was very very tiring. As part of the plan a sleepover or two were planned but we did have to bring that forward as we couldn't get through deep floods to foster carer to return AD as on plan (got stuck part way & car about to die) so as AD was happy we phoned foster carer & took AD home again for our adventure.the point is it's not out of the question but it's about what is best for your LO not what is most convenient for you as adopters - tough I know. It worked very well for AD having the gradual transfer of parenting from FC to us & we also took a few things at a time to our house each time she visited.

We adopted a sibling group of 3, and we had them overnight on the 3rd day of introductions.Thought it was normal.

I had 12 days of intros with a 6 yo which included 3 sleepovers :-) it was fab, definitely a great bonding experience x

Congratulations!We didn't have sleepovers. I'm presuming your child is older as you mention school. If sleepovers don't occur you may find that your child doesn't sleep in the car. My son has only ever fell asleep twice in our car, and thats in 3 years of placement, we have completed car journeys of over 4hrs and he is still awake. I've spoken to other adoptive parents who say their child is the same. My son is unable to just switch off/relax/fall asleep. So if you do need to return child to FC it may be you won't need to put them to bed. Good luck with it all :-)

hia lot depends on age of childschool age would almost certainly have sleep overunder 3 almost certainly nottherefore if child old enough to understand it could work if not adds to confusion about returning to foster hometime to call on support network and maybe BD could have sleep over if there is somewhere she is used to going to free you upit is all up for discussion at planning meeting and do not agree to anything you have doubts about Good luck Jet

My intros were 6 days for a 6 year old and sleepover was on the penultimate night and he was to go back for his final night with fc.I refused to let him go back and fc backed me up, we had talked about me kipping on their sofa he was so distressed every night I took him back.Sw didn't argue Suze x