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Hi- all the children that I have moved to adoption started introductions in my (f.carer) home. The adopters visit the child in the childs environment first- buiding up the length and interactions with child. Then in the last few days (depending on childs age and length of planned intro's)- the f.carer will take the child to the adopters home and the introductions continue in adopters home until final 'handover' day. This has been the usual procedure in my experience even when there is a long distance between fc and adopters. hope this helps.

We did intros at FC, but then they travelled to us with children. They stayed locally at a B&B for 2 nights, and then we met for goodbye (not at home).

it depends on the circumstances of the fc and adopters combined with teh needs of the children. for me personally travelling and staying over near adopters (most of mine have been some considerable distance) is not easy as i often have other children in placement and dont want them put into respite to accommodate the needs of another child and also have a learning disabled (adult) son who i cant leave over night on his own. so usually we do everything at my house and local area and then i travel down with LO, spend the day and see them settled in new home and then leave new parents to it. it has worked for the LO's i have moved on this way, but they were also quite young and over night stays with new parents and returns to me would have only confused them. when small bubs moves on eventually i think i may need to stay over near the new parents for a few days but it will involve taking my son out of college and organising other child's contact so she doesn't miss out that. is always difficult to know what to do for best becoz our foster bubs, while we usually know them very well, dont always react to new parents in predictable ways, so plans need to be flexible from the off and changed to meet the childs needs during intros if that is needed.

I have heard of this being done, but it isn't in the best interests of the child, imo. Best practice is that indroductions start at f.c.s home where the child feels safest and start the 'hand over' process at the childs pace. Older children usually have a sleep over night or two but for younger children this is very confusing.When they live a long way from me i usually do travel up to their home towards the end of intros with the lo as this 'gives permission' for them to move on. I have once had to stay in a hotel but lo (under 3) stayed with me and returned for breakfast and a play without me, before we returned home.If intros are being suggested for you at the adopters home, I would be asking why and in whos best interest is this being done.Hope all goes well, bm.

HiThanks for all the replies.Still agree that adopters should attend FC, but can also see tgat it sounds logical that the FC is giving permission in the child's eyes by going to the adopter.No it's not for me...Wee Mee was placed here in October. I was just intrigued by someone else's comments..

Hi just read your post about your intros were FC stayed in BnB for the last stage, did the kids stay in the BnB too, did this work ok?Similar thing proposed for us and I worry it will be unsettling for Lo's to introduce yet another location & strange bed?ThanksRoo

Hi. we have not stayed in B &B during the second half of intros, but in a 'Holiday Home' ---twice. In both cases it worked well, we were able to continue the process as we would have done if the Adopters lived nearer, with gradual visits to their home. As far as the LOs were concerned, because thay were used to going away for holidays and short breaks with us, the location didn't matter, as long as we were there. I one case I believe that it even made it easier for the LO to leave us from somewhere that hadn't been her home for the last 2 years.