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Oh my goodness...sorry to hear about your loss clr1, and wishing you luck getting through the next little while. It's impressive that you've been able to stay therapeutic with your daughter with all that going on, and to be able to get why she's so unsettled. I hope she is able to re-balance a bit. Very good luck with the funeral - and keep sipping that sherry....

Oh yes, what a week! I'm sending lots and lots of hugs and some strength. I so sympathise with you. My mum had a very major stroke at the beginning of this year - we thought she was going to die for most of the first two months (out of nearly five) in hospital, and what a can of family worms that opened! And I, with the needy adopted family (who doesn't live the closest) was left to be the main point of contact for hospital, the one who had to travel 60 odd miles three times a week to visit, to deal with sorting out clothes, toiletries, getting in touch with all the extended family to let them know, to deal with housing utilities, etc - it was horrendous, and still is. I won't go into the family stuff, but let's just say I didn't do my usual dry January! My kids were a mixed bag through all of this, but I actually found myself taking pleasure in the very tiny gains they made and was grateful they were around to take my mind of things. I am so sorry for your family's loss. I don't know what kind of relationship you had with your stepfather, but give yourself time to grieve if you can (I'm saying this, but I was on autopilot for 5 months this year and it was only later that I really began to feel upset). Failing that, get some rest , or at least respite - go for a drink with a sympathetic friend. I hope you are getting some sleep and have someone to talk to, as well as all of us! Take care, xxx

Thank you. I just needed to vent..!

((((clr1))))