Hi, I read this forum, but don't post often as I don't have a lot of answers. We are at matching stage. Perhaps in a few months or years I'll be able to be more helpful!
Welcome AppleTree and Furcifer! I wasa long-time lurker too, but as time goes by I feel that perhaps I do have something of relevance to say, hopefully it's helpful! We all have different experiences and the more we can share, the richer this forum can be. Sometimes just a few words can be great comfort or set me thinking about something in a different way. It's all welcome.
Please post. Apple Tree, you do have answers and some people out there no longer feel this is the forum to not only ask questions but to say for example I’m having a hard day. For example, one of my kids is ill and on antibiotics and my husband got admitted with the same infection to hospital last night. My second child has started to cough today and I’m praying (literally) please Lord keep me fit! House is a mess as builders are taking their time to do a job.
This the forum is (was) for that! No questions, no answers just sharing how hard it might become to look after a child that kicks and destroys your Christmas decorations (making the mess the most exciting thing in your life) because mum left dad in the hospital. Sense of loss, aggression, etc. No one understands why one remains calm and caring without shouting when her kid welcomes her with kicks and defiance rather than with a cuddles and kisses!!!! By the way my next door neighbour is an angel.
If we don’t rescue this forum, AUK won’t. And it will die.
Oh Agape, that sounds like an extremely hard day in Adoption Land; I hope your hubby is better now? And both children?
I’m more than a decade in to my adoption story and more of a regularly-sporadic poster than a die-hard daily poster, but the AUK forums have always proven to be a lifeline to me. I really hope that we can breathe new life into them and entice back the oldies, as well as attract the newbies.
By the way, thank goodness for tolerant, understanding neighbours! The ones who you fear will report you to the police or SS because of the extreme screaming/tantrums etc.
Thanks Furcifer,
I’ve been like you for about 6 years and more than posting my own stuff, I try to support others as I did get a lot of help by reading the posts when I have been in a roller coaster, Donatella, who started this post being a case in point.
By the way yesterday was worse. I realised husband was going down hill within hours but had to keep my playfulness (I love PACE, it has made me a different person) despite the urgency. God helped me even with the traffic and parking at the hospital as I did not want to dial 999 to avoid scaring the kids. My neighbour was beyond believe. She left work to look after my kids!!!! Mind do, we have helped them as well in the past but still.
Despite all my efforts, my eldest son told me dad is dying. It took me an extra hour to explore that! (The curiosity bit).
It was almost midnight by the time all settled, and yes SS would not want to hear kids going to bed that late.
Anyhow, thanks for reply.
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Hi Agape
It sounds like you coped amazingly under extremely difficult circumstances and anyone who would dare to judge you for your children going to bed too late is more than welcome to visit my house first! Needs must and all that!
I really hope your husband is on the mend now; that must’ve been so scary for all of you, and what rotten timing so close to Christmas and the end of term.
Unfortunately things are not as I would like them to be. Maybe I m just being impatient but docs have just phoned to say they are escalating treatment. He’s going in good hands. Kids are sleeping! ?
Anyway, Election Day tomorrow.
Hi, Just wanted to say thanks for the encouragement to post :-) And I hope your husband gets better asap Agape.
Agape, I hope your husband get better very soon.
Hi Agape
I hope there is more positive news re: your husband today? Even if the election result is looking depressingly dire (well, if you’re a Labour supporter like me!)
Sending my best wishes to the Agape household.
Hi Agape - just sending you some virtual hugs as you're having such a difficult time. I hope your husband gets better soon. Your neighbours sound like true stars.
Thanks a lot for all your support!!!!! Things are settling now and husband is now at home. All the household on antibiotics!
I’m sorry I didn’t mean to highjack this post which is about rescuing the forum but wanted to give an example of how valuable our community is. I’m very grateful to all of you and hope others will realise the importance of keeping the forum alive.
By the way, I just realised I’m a squirrel ? which I didn’t choose!
Have a great night everyone.
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Any update Laura? And changes planned following on from feedback from users? It would be good to know
Can I just echo Safia’s request? It would be very good to have an update. Thanks in advance.
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