Our LO has been with us 8 months and we are already being thrown into primary school choices. We have 6 good schools in our area, all fairly similar. We have narrowed it down to 2. Do we go with:
Option 1 - is just 5 minutes walk away, has a "no shame" discipline policy that focuses first on "making it right" and then on "consequence mapping", has a SENCO that did her masters dissertation on trauma and attachment in education and was able to give several examples of how theory was being applied in the school. She had also read adoption friendly school books and seemed amenable to the idea of a key adult being assigned to DS as an attachment figure. But this school has a poor ofsted report (2017) and outcomes below national average.
Option 2 - 25 mins walk away, discipline policy is "positive discipline", but when reading it this comes across as a huge emphasis on praise, with sanctions for backup. SENCO has had some attachment training but not as able to give examples of how this is currently applied, PP money ringfenced for the specific child. This school has an outstanding ofsted report (2017) and continually performs above national average.
Both offer nurture groups and have good additional support in terms of support/mentors.
DS struggles with shame, praise and emotional regulation and attachment still very new and scary for him. OH is worried that option 1 has a good SENCO but that is only 1 person and what if she leaves.
This seems like such a big decision, I keep having to remind myself we are lucky and that both of these are good options. It is just a case of what do we prioritise.