Hi
Our son is seven and has good awareness of life story, why he isn’t with birth family, remembers lots about time in foster care, meeting us etc.
He doesn’t seem to struggle as much with move from birth family as he does with move from foster care. Foster care placement was a loving strong placement and we still keep in regular touch. They fostered many teenage children who are now adults and remain considered as part of their family. One of these children was in placement before our son and they refer to him as their son now he’s an adult.
I have talked with son about foster carers generally, their role etc and specifically about his story - how they loved him, how their role was to care for him until a forever family could be found. None of it seems to help him with his thoughts of “if they kept x (older foster child) why didn’t they keep me”.
Any suggestions on how we can help our son with this? We give him lots of reassurance that we know he misses them and it’s ok to miss them.