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I think it’s normal to look them up. I did at one time to see if I could find any info - area where they lived etc - and again after BM died (a while after) I looked up BF and he was living with someone so I assumed he’d remarried. I would do it. But be wary what / when you share as lots of teenagers search at that time. I think if you have a photo and kept it as you would if given a printed one and shared it with a young child again as you would if given one that would be best

I would do it.

If it is publicly accessible it's not like you've stolen it or hacked them. I'd take the opportunity now and decide in the future what to do with the pictures.

You are right, this is a controversal topic and I know that some birth parents feel that their privacy is being invaded.

I do look quite regularly though and share new pictures with my children. I do this to keep my children safe. I am trying to prevent that my children search for information on their own and make contact. So far that has worked. However, my children have memories of their birth family and we have direct contact with siblings who have been contacted/ who have contacted birth family members via sm, so they have access to these images as well.

I have done, we only have 1 photo of BM and BD and the social worker admitted she quickly took it from Facebook herself as they hadn’t supplied any photos. I’ve saved a pic of them with our little one when she was a baby as I thought it’s something she will like to see when she’s older. They are also local-ish to us so I check in occasionally just to ease my mind from a safety perspective.