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I have just heard that a fellow adopter, who was a friend, has died recently. She has two kids, one in teens and one still in primary. They and her husband will be gutted and have now lost the main carer of the family. I will send my condolences of course but am wondering if there is any more I can do, given that I have a houseful of needs at this end, including my elderly father joining us, so I am limited in practical time to help out (and I don't really know her kids well at all) I am not in her close circle, just someone I met with for a few chats over the years, mainly about adoption, and my hubby and hers occasionally exchanged brief words in places like the local supermarket. They met a few weeks ago and were expecting a long illness/treatment after a diagnosis last month, but this has come out of the blue this week, so will be unexpected to him. One good thing is that I know her eldest will get good pastoral support from his school, as its the same on our youngest is at, but it is one of his external exam years and they take place next month, so that's going to be tough for him. And I suspect, having known her, that there will be people more local and immediate who will be able to rally round on the immediate needs. Just wondered if there is anything "round the edges" I could do that would be supportive. I think I'm still a bit in shock about it. She was good to me when things were particularly tough here. Any thoughts? Thanks Pingu