Hi Marcy, I agree with Safia and Serrakunda, it’s not about what’s wrong with you; it’s about what’s right for the child. Maybe the child in the profile you expressed an interest in is passionate about Labradors (just as a random example, say) and person x or couple x have written in their profile that they have a chocolate brown Labrador, then, bingo, that’s a starting point for the family finding SW (although I really wish I hadn’t gone down the dog analogy route as I fear I’m leaving myself exposed to criticisms on health and safety grounds.)
Fiona, please don’t get too hung up on statistics and facts; in the nicest possible way, it’s really not a numbers game. There may be x number of children waiting for families and x number of available approved adopters - but if, admittedly in the very subjective opinion of social workers, you’re not the right fit for their child, then they won’t match you. It really isn’t a case of supply or demand. They’re children, not commodities. This is all about the rest of a child’s life and social workers want to be assured that they are sending their children onto adulthood via the happiest/best/most resilient/economically stable family they are able to select. It’s their wish list for this very important child on their caseload.
Have faith, it will happen, but it will take time. The waiting is hideous but we have all been there, some longer than others. Use the time productively to read, read, read, learn, learn, learn and plan ahead for your post-placement future, be it stockpiling loo rolls or squirrelling extra contributions into your pension fund.
Please don’t lose heart; every adopted child needs at least one adult who will dig in and hold fast when times are really hard.