Hi, looking for experience and thoughts - My AD came to me June 2018 age 3 1/2 - she has always displayed signs of attachment issues - prone to bouts of anger and aggression towards me (single adopter sharing a house with my mum). Just finished my second session of therapy funded by the ASF - it has brought positive outcomes and our bond is much better - I hope to continue with therapy again later this year. She has SEN and has just moved from mainstream year 2 to a special school - at her old and now at her new school she is great but the minute she walks through the door she goes off like a fire work and its getting worse. I get her upstairs in her bedroom and sit with her and try to engage. She is spitting, kicking, biting, throwing and basically trying to damage everything and anything in her path living or not. Im waiting to speak to a Dr from Community Paediatrics about any short term and very mild medications she could have to calm her down ? Not something im keen about but feel i need some help de escalating the situation before some one gets hurt.
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Hi Zanewhoop,
You say she has SEN so what diagnosis does she have? It could be a mix of both attachment problems and ASD. Does she have dx for ASD? Girls with ASD do a lot of masking at school inorder to fit in. So they will spend their day watching and copying others inorder to fit in. They therefore find the school day not only very tiring but also they spend it in a constant state of very high anxiety. When they get home they offload the anxiety and tiredness onto their nearest and dearest. Hence the behaviour.
I think it may be worth having a look at ASD and see if any of the features fit your daughter. If they do then seek a dx for it. Even if she isn't ASD I would still treat her as if she did as I think her anxiety levels are super high. Do you have a trampoline at home that she can use to off load some of the aggression. Or even a visit to the park on the way home? Or perhaps one of those boxing balls that she can hit? Anything really where she can offload her anxiety/aggression in a safe way.
Sending hugs as it is all very difficult to deal with. Xxx
Hi Windfalls
Thanks for the reply - its been a manic week.
She only has the overview term of global developmental delay - still waiting on her genetics testing, they did the basic test and nothing came back so now its the in-depth one. She is coming up to 7 but I would place her anywhere between 2 and 4 depending. They have no idea what is wrong. She has a full EHCP, she has been assessed a few times by the educational psychologist and the therapist. No one has ever mentioned ASD - I have asked and been told no or unlikely.
Community paediatrics tried to push me back to the social worker and the therapist - I explained that the therapy was only in short blocks which had just stopped and I need help now. They have now referred me to CAHMS which Ive been told should contact me in a couple of weeks. Im also seeing the community paediatric Dr at the beginning of March this was already set up as a general review - so that has landed well.
My Dr was on holiday but the locum prescribed something that is used for allergies and also as a sedative ? it has calmed the situation a lot to the point I can use therapeutic parenting more - bedtime is still a very aggressive flash point. Its certainly not a longterm solution but offered a very welcome respite.
Yes agreed I need to get her more active - she loves being out but the weather over the past few months has just been to bad. Soft play helps and I do have stuff set up n the garage. I will bring up the ASD with the Dr and look into more myself.
Thanks xxx
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