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Hi Mommycat,As you have had no replies yet, I thought I'd reply. I'm no expert being white and Irish, but if it was me I think I'd live with it for a while. As you said he's only been with you for a week and if your were either to take him to the barbers, or DIY, it is yet another big change for him to cope with, particularily if this is his first haircut.Being a boy it is easier in that it doesn't matter if his hair is big or short/shaved, but I wouldn't recommend changing it this soon. Your OH is black, does he not have any family members who could advise you? I know with my exDH, when he had hair, I used to cut/shave it for him with one of those WAHL electric hair razors. Back in the late 80's I had to learn how to do a flat top and I got quite good at it, apart from one occasion where I got over confident and had to shave it all off.Boys hair is so much easier to style/shave/cut then girls, but as I said before, I would hold off doing it until LO has settled in. Have you spoken to FC about it?HTH and that you get some more replies as I said I'm no expert.

Dh has no idea and my relatinship with his family is delicate to say the least I have in the past shaved dh' s and ex bf's head but disnt think a lo could be that short??????? I am in no hurry but as usual like a plan ;0)

HelloI have tried to use clippers on Elmos hair this week and I found it hard to do this fast enough , as his tolerance was about 5 minutes,so he has a slightly uneven cut - so I think this would be hard with a very little boy who did not understand what you are doing.Could you braid it or just snip off a bit with scissors , if its uneven ?I think as Jmk suggests I would leave it for a while as he is still settling in with you, at least his hair will keep his head warm in the cold weather! Congratulations on his arrival.Elma

Hi op i am black so my advice is in the black community its is coustomery for the dad to take there son to the barbers You wont really find any women in there let you oh take control of this and hopefully it will become a little thing they do Also do not allow his hair to become a big deal or a issue that needs to be fixed Black hair is a big issue and you dont want your ds think he has "bad" hair is see this on so many threads its almost made me changed my mond about cross racical placemnts sometimes You know oh such ans such has awful hair what shat i do no they don have awful hair its simply they with diffrent hair type dont know how to manage it Hope my post is helpful

Agree with fishwife1949 here, this is a daddy and son 'thing' for black folk.Perfect opportunity to encourage bonding between your man and LO.But it may be a bit soon, just a week in to placement.Hope it's all going well for you,Witch