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Hi all. I''m after some advice for my brother and his wife. They were given a baby 11 months ago, and told that they would probably be able to adopt the baby, this was said to them various times by various people from social services. Because of this, they let their guard down with the baby, more so than other children they foster because they thought they’d be adopting the baby. A month ago though, they were told that the baby would be going to England to live with a blood relative. This has devastated my brother, his wife and their existing child. They decided to fight because they feel they were lied to and misled by social services. At the start of September they would have had the baby for 12 months, and, as you probably know, they would have a lot more rights then. However, social services went there yesterday and told them they’d be taking the baby this Saturday and put with another foster family until she goes to live with her new family in England. The reason they have done this, is my brother and family were supposed to be going on holiday for two weeks on Saturday, and when they return, it would have been 12 months they had the baby. Social services know this, so they’re taking the child to deny my brother and his wife their rights and ensure they don’t have the baby for 12 months or more. Also, they know thew baby wont even be meeting their new family until at least November, so the baby will be in a new foster family at least another few months, so the child''s best interests are obviously not top of social services life. I know it’s very late in the day to do anything, but my brother is now desperate because he feels like he has no rights. As far as I''m aware, until the baby is with their new permanent family and still with the state, I think my brother has a fighting chance.This is a condensed version of what has happened, but I didn''t want to overload you with information. They have spoken to solicitors, who both said my brother and his wife may have a chance, but they''d have to formally take on the solicitor and pay before anything can be done. My brother and his wife will pay what it takes, but they don''t want to pay a solicitor only to be told because they had the child less than 12 months, they have no rights whatsoever. All offers of adoptions were verbal, but my brother and wife were asked to apply in writing to adopt the child, which they did, so the only paper trail in this case is the adoption application.This child has built up big bonds with my brother and wife and their daughter, and cries when apart from them. Now to pull the child away from this and put with a new foster family for at least 2 months, then to move the child again to a new family, to me a cruel, and is not whats best for the child. I think they just need to hear that cases like this have been won before and that they do have some rights, but they''re not entitled to legal aid, they feel so so betrayed by social services, and have no idea of their rights, they just need someone to offer them any glimmer of hope and put the issue to rest by telling them they have no rights. All SS have done is try to frighten and scare them off, and jump ahead of them every step of the way offering no support to a family who have nothing but try to do what''s right for the children in their care.Thanks in advance for any help guys