April 18, 2022 22:58
It’s not straightforward to change a name particularly when the child is younger. My daughter has just changed her christian name - it’s something she’s wanted to do for a long time but we waited until she was able to make an informed choice - at 16. We had to do it via a deed poll using an online service. Then comes the fun of informing - with a certified copy of the deed poll - all those who’ll need to know. You can’t just decide to change a name - our school would only change the name on the register by evidencing the deed poll for example.
I don’t know his old your child is or whether s/he would be capable of making that decision for theirselves but as you adopted just 6 years ago I’m thinking they’re still quite young. And I wonder how they’d feel about being asked to jettison a name they’re comfortable with - and the symbolism of formally cutting ties with their father. The relationship may have broken down for now but irrevocably so or not? I think it’s a big ask.
Do you have to make the decision right now? On top of everything else that’s happening this just might be another organisational headache that will add extra stress.
Plus fairly sure you’d need dad to approve the change as well