Hi,
My wife and I have started the application process to be adoptive parents. It is some that really excites us. We both have children from previous relationships but are unable to have children together due to medical reasons that have left us both infertile.
I am however really concerned about the agency getting in contact with my ex partner. The relationship was sour from the get go and left me with PTSD after years of systematic mental abuse and isolation. It did however produce 2 children which I still have regular contact with and have alway been in their lives. The Ex has remained confrontational even to this day, I have no contact with her baring the occasional email ref the children and all visits for my children and pre mandated by court order with timings confirmed from my eldest child. I have recovered from the trauma of the relationship (mainly with help from my wife) and am a stronger and better person now but am worried that the animosity from my ex will cause issues for us as we try to adopt. She has repeatedly attempted to case issues for me within my family and work and I know she will go out of her way to cause me upset because I dared to leave her.
I wondered if anyone could offer any advice or be may someone has been through a similar situation to us.